How To Become a Dominatrix – Make $3000 PM [2022 Guide]

How to become a dominatrix

I make money as a online dominatrix and have done so, for 6 years and it’s been my best decision I have ever made. 

I have become a strong, independent, confident woman, with a stable income and I have this career path to thank for that. 💃🏼

In this article I’m going to teach you how to become a great online domme, so you can start earning great money.

Grab your whip and let’s go 😉

This post may contain affiliate links within our posts, this won’t cost you anything. 

Best Dominatrix Sites

Finding the best sites to earn money as a dominatrix can be challenging, as this is a specific niche, and not all sites have a large submissive audience. 

Over the years, I have tried and tested so many platforms to see what gains me the most income and these are the sites I settled on for the best Femdom audience

SitePercentage PayoutFeatures On Site
LoyalFans80%– Fan Page
– Video Store
– Live Camming
– Phone Calls
Iwantclips60-80%– Video Store
– Custom Videos
– Phone Calls
Manyvids60-80%– Video Store
– Live Camming
– Fan Page
Unlockd.me 85%– Fan Page
– Live Camming
Onlyfans 80%– Fan Page
– Live Camming

How to Make Money as a Dominatrix

Creating a Femdom Fan page

Running a fan page as a domme is the most popular way to make money in the adult industry in 2022. 

The great part about fan pages is that you don’t just run one fan page, but it’s advised to have multiple fan pages. 

For Femdom content creators, I personally recommend LoyalFans and Onlyfans for all dommes. These are the two platforms where I’ve successfully built a good-paying following. 


Creating Femdom Video content

The majority of online dommes create video content for their fans. It appears that this is the most popular way for submissive men to satisfy their kinks 😉. 

Making videos may sound like a daunting task, but you can make the process much easier. If you are new, you can start by filming videos using your phone, a good ring light and a saucy outfit or two. 

You can look around for inspiration from other models and write out a light script for your video. 

Once your video is done, you can edit the clip using simple video editing tools from the App Store. This is the easiest way to start creating video content. 

I have personally found Iwantclips and Manyvids to be the best two platforms to sell your Femdom content.


Camming as a Domme

You can make great money from webcamming as a dominatrix, but it has to be done the right way. 

There are so many live camming sites out there, but live camming on these sites isn’t the best option to choose, mainly because live camming sites mainly attract guys who aren’t submissive.

The best way to earn money camming as a domme is to offer live sessions to your customers and provide the cam show on Skype or another video platform. You can also stream live on your fan page or on Manyvids.

If you’re going to do private cam shows on Skype, make sure the guys pay first and make sure they pay on an adult platform.


Phone sex as a Domme

You’d be surprised to know that phone sex for domination services is still very popular. It’s something I have continued to do until this day and it’s one of my favourite ways to offer my domme services.

The best platforms I like for phone sex are Iwantclips – Loyalfans and Niteflirt.

Creating Your Character

Creating your character before you start your career as a dominatrix is really important. 

This is advice I never had when I first started and, believe me, I wish I had done 😬

As we’ve spoken about previously, the more ways a platform gives you to make money, the more money you can make. 

Here is a comparison of all the ways that you can make money on Loyalfans and Onlyfans.

Because I rushed in, picked a random name and never really planned my character, I ended up changing my name 3 times during my Femdom career. This resulted in much more work on my plate.

(changing video watermarks for 100+ videos was no fun) yikes! 😱

And I probably lost customers as a result.

I recommend that you incorporate as much of your own style and attitude as possible. If you create a character who is nothing like who you truly are, it’s going to be far more draining for you in the long run.

Dominatrix Tools

Lovehoney Satin and Leather Spanking Paddle $19.99


Lovehoney Unisex Hollow Strap-On 6 Inch $29.99


Short Male Chastity Cage Kit $59.99

The Right Domme Attitude

How to become a dominatrix

When you think about a dominatrix you might think of a shouty, angry and mean woman who’s dressed in black leather. And for some, this may be the case. 

But in 2022, things are a little different. 

You’ll find dommes who are the most sweet-faced looking women, glamorous blonde-haired beauties or simply the girl next door vibes. 

And they all harness a different attitude towards Femdom. Many dommes like to be more cunning and manipulative with their approach and others prefer the cruel, mean girl approach.

Finding the right attitude that suits you is key to becoming a successful online dominatrix. 

It’s ok if you aren’t comfortable with being mean. Mostly, a mean attitude comes along with humiliation-related fetishes and you can avoid these if you prefer. 

You could opt for a more “controlling domme” where your approach is to take full control of your customers’ jerking activities, how he spends his money and how he should devote himself to you. 

If you do decide to become a sassy pro bitch, I recommend you do not take the shouty & aggressive approach. This isn’t what Femdom is about and not many guys would be willing to pay for the privilege

Instead, I recommend that you take a cool and calm approach but keep your talk mean and edgy.

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Choosing The Right Femdom Kinks

There are hundreds of fetishes out there and it can be super overwhelming to know where to start and which ones to pick. 

I recommend that you start off with picking no more than 3-5 kinks to explore by taking them all on at once is going to be stressful, so let’s take this slow. 

This way you can find out which kinks work for you and which kinks don’t, some will earn more money than others. 

Here is a list of the top 10 most popular Femdom kinks – 

1. Mesmerize
2. Chastity
3. Financial domination 
4. Foot worship 
5. Encouraged Bi
6. Blackmail fantasy 
7. CEI
8. Humiliation / SPH
9. Cuckolding
10. Homewrecking fantasy 

Once you’ve explored your first 3-5 kinks, you can start to narrow down which ones are best suited to you, and then over time you can start to bring new kinks into your services. 

You’ll notice as you start to make content for each kink, you’ll build a following of guys who are into that particular fetish. These guys will return to you time and time again as you release new content each week.

You may also find that you can become a specialist in one or two particular fetishes and then you can cater all of your content into those categories. Some models have done this very successfully, especially in the mesmerize and findom fetish. 

After exploring 10 different fetishes, I personally settled on findom and foot worship, as those were the two fetishes I enjoyed the most and had built the strongest fan base. 

But it did take me at least 3 years to finally settle on this, so there is no rush.

How much can you make as an Online Domme?

On average, most dommes earn $3000 per month. But this number can vary, depending on how much effort you are willing to put in. This also isn’t achieved right away, it takes time to build up a good customer base to create a regular income. 

It goes without saying that the more platforms you’re on and the more services you offer, the more money you’ll make. But the biggest impact on your income is the amount of work you’re willing to put into this.

Some dommes prefer to put in part-time hours and are happy with $1000 a month, whereas other online dommes I know are putting in full-time hours and making $10000 or more per month.

There is also a time element involved. Your main focus should be on building a good regular customer base. With guys that purchase your content week in, week out. It takes at least 3 months of hard work to establish some kind of customer base, sometimes this can take longer, depending on which time of the year you begin.

Certain months of the year are notoriously slow within the adult industry, the summer months being the slowest. This is because most guys are out more during the holidays. So, expect June-August to not perform as good as the winter, spring and autumn.

Dominatrix Name Ideas

Picking a good Femdom name is one of the first tasks you’ll need to do. Most online dommes will include one of the following titles in front of their chosen stage name –

  • Princess or Bratty 
  • Goddess 
  • Domina
  • Mistress or Miss
  • Empress
  • Queen 

Whichever title you pick, is the title that your customers will refer to you as. You can pick whichever one you like the most. If you are going for a young bratty vibe then Princess or Bratty is the best choice.

If your vibe is a more mysterious, seductive woman then any of the remaining titles would suit you best. 

The next step is to pick your stage name. I strongly advise against using your real name as you need to protect yourself. So opt for something else, it’s best to check sites like Iwantclips to make sure someone else isn’t already using your chosen name. 

I recommend picking a double-barrel name e.g. Goddess Emily Louise, rather than Goddess Emily. As you’ll find that there are tons of Goddess Emily’s out there and guys will struggle to find you. By using a unique double-barrel name, guys will be able to search for you easily. 

Dominatrix Outfits

You must pick your own unique style when forming your character. This is what sets you aside from the rest and lets guys know what kind of domme you are. Some dommes enjoy the pink, glitter and glam style whereas others prefer a seductive red and black look. Here are some sexy Femdom outfits to help get you started – 

Lovehoney Lace Long-Sleeve Mini Dress $19.99


Mapale Wet Look Cut Out Teddy $42.99


Lovehoney Plus Size Wet Look Zipper Cut-Out Teddy $49.99


Lovehoney Sheer Thigh High Stockings $9.99

Tips for Dommes

Tip 1 

Although a dominant nature isn’t a necessity in becoming a domme, it certainly helps. It may look super easy to call a guy a loser while giving him the middle finger, but there’s so much more to Femdom than that. Guys expect you to know about their fetish if you’re offering it, so there’s a steep learning curve when entering the beautiful world of Femdom. 

Tip 2

This brings me to tip 2. My biggest advice would be to learn as much as you can and never stop. Femdom isn’t something you can just walk into, with hundreds of fetishes and a big element of psychology, there are a lot of studies involved. I encourage you to watch other models’ videos, analyse their tweets and learn from the best.

Tip 3 

Remember that psychology is everything when becoming a dominatrix. It’s 20% sexual and 80% mental psychology. Guys want to give up control to a strong woman. Being able to step inside a submissive guy’s mind and take control is the essence of this kink. I’ve personally learned so much about psychology from books and YouTube, to advance my skills as a domme. 

Tip 4 

Don’t let your ego get the better of you. When you’re playing the role as a spoiled goddess, who’s mean and strong, this can easily go to your head. This can start to rub off on your personality outside of sex work and it really doesn’t go down well.

Tip 5 

Don’t waste your time on time-wasting guys. You’re going to come across guys who will literally beg you for your time for free, on a daily basis. You will also come across guys who sneakily try to speak to you for free. Don’t fall for this. Guys should always pay you for your time upfront. If they aren’t paying, then they aren’t worthy of your attention. 

Tip 6 

Don’t poach other dommes serving guys, it doesn’t go down well. If a guy approaches you and says that he’s serving another model, then to be honest, I don’t have any issues with taking his money. He should have better servitude skills. But I would never approach other dommes guys. This can end in arguments and it’s just a known mutual respect within the community.

Best Fetish Subreddits

Reddit is the best place to attract new guys to your pages, it’s the most adult-friendly social media platform to market yourself. I’ve been using Reddit to promote myself for years. I even quit using Twitter in favour of Reddit. 

Each page has its own rules and some require verification before posting, so make sure you check the rules of each subreddit before you post, as you can easily get banned from pages.

Here is a selection of the best Femdom subreddits for you to use –

  • r/Femdom 
  • r/femdomgonewild 
  • r/mistress
  • r/EroticHypnosis
  • r/Gentlefemdom
  • r/FemdomAsians
  • r/OnlyfansLifestyle
  • r/Dominatrix
  • r/FemdomSelfies
  • r/Homewreckergonewild
  • r/Blackmailkink
  • r/FetishSelling
  • r/Findom
  • r/FindomFinsub 
  • r/Chastity
  • r/KeyholderCaptions
  • r/ForcedFeminization
  • r/FemdomHumiliation 
  • r/Cuckold
  • r/SPH
  • r/SissyChastity
  • r/Sissy_humiliation 
  • r/Sissyhypno
  • r/Cei
  • r/FindomPayPigs

Conclusion

I hope this guide helps you make money as a online dominatrix. If you are naturally dominant you should find it easy to become a domme. It’s something I have been doing through my whole career and I still enjoy it. I will continue to write guides to help you become a sassy online dominatrix.

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